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Category: Sexuality Description: couple or single guys that have interest in a long term three way relationship Type: public Created By: twoboyscharm
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Polyamory is the practice or lifestyle of being open to having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The word is often used more broadly to refer to relationships that are not sexually exclusive, but there is disagreement on how broadly it applies (for example, many people contend that swinging is not polyamory). Persons who consider themselves open to or emotionally suited for such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly.
Polyfidelity is a form of polyamory wherein all members consider each other to be primary partners and agree to be sexual only with other members of this group. This term originated within the Kerista Village commune in San Francisco which practiced polyfidelity from 19711991. Kerista also expected all members of a polyfidelitous group to be sexual with all other members (within bounds of their sexual orientations), but this aspect of polyfidelity is not always expected today.
Polyfidelitous relationships are closed in the sense of closed and open marriages, in that partners agree not to be sexual outside the current members of the group. New members may generally be added to the group only by unanimous consensus of the existing members, or the group may not accept new members.
Previous to the Kerista Village experience, people would have likely called this arrangement simply a "group marriage". Indeed, one might think of polyfidelity as being very much like monogamy except that it may include more than two people (and may or may not be open to adding new members). The broader term polyamory was coined later, in the early 1990s.
One commonly cited advantage of this form of polyamory is the ability to fluid bond among more than two people while maintaining relative safety regarding STDs, so long as any new members are sufficiently tested before fluid bonding with the group, and keep their commitments. This would have health advantages similar to monogamy, although risks rise somewhat with each person added. (Many polyamorists achieve similar goals through forming condom commitment or latex barrier circles whose members are fluid bonded only with each other and agree to use appropriate safer sex practices with anybody else, without the other restrictions of polyfidelity). Others seek emotional safety from the relatively closed nature of the polyfidelitous commitment.
- from WIKIPEDIA.ORG
Polyfidelity is a form of polyamory wherein all members consider each other to be primary partners and agree to be sexual only with other members of this group. This term originated within the Kerista Village commune in San Francisco which practiced polyfidelity from 19711991. Kerista also expected all members of a polyfidelitous group to be sexual with all other members (within bounds of their sexual orientations), but this aspect of polyfidelity is not always expected today.
Polyfidelitous relationships are closed in the sense of closed and open marriages, in that partners agree not to be sexual outside the current members of the group. New members may generally be added to the group only by unanimous consensus of the existing members, or the group may not accept new members.
Previous to the Kerista Village experience, people would have likely called this arrangement simply a "group marriage". Indeed, one might think of polyfidelity as being very much like monogamy except that it may include more than two people (and may or may not be open to adding new members). The broader term polyamory was coined later, in the early 1990s.
One commonly cited advantage of this form of polyamory is the ability to fluid bond among more than two people while maintaining relative safety regarding STDs, so long as any new members are sufficiently tested before fluid bonding with the group, and keep their commitments. This would have health advantages similar to monogamy, although risks rise somewhat with each person added. (Many polyamorists achieve similar goals through forming condom commitment or latex barrier circles whose members are fluid bonded only with each other and agree to use appropriate safer sex practices with anybody else, without the other restrictions of polyfidelity). Others seek emotional safety from the relatively closed nature of the polyfidelitous commitment.
- from WIKIPEDIA.ORG
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Posted By: spandexking on: 11/17/09 7:30 AM |
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it would be great if there was more dating web sites with the focus being on relationships more, and on the sex less. There are so many types of relationships out there! Most sites are just for hook ups for single men. There is the craigslist route, but you have to do a lot of weeding out guys who aren't what you've specifically asked for, and the occasional weirdo. Would be great to search for those interested in a 3 way relationship, both couples and single men. (and couples searching for other couples, etc)
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Throwing it out there. |
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Posted By: Asato on: 10/24/09 4:02 PM |
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Where to start?
This is something that I have felt for much of my "adult" life would be for me. I have many of the same type reasons for wanting this but also a few that I don't consider too common, or at least I have not come across. I feel that I have a world to give, almost too much for one person. I am not a jealous type nor do I consider myself needy. I live simply and efficiently. I have a part of me that is independent and solitary. I need my own space/office/room that I can escape to when the need arises to have listening time. Music is my first and deepest love and always will be. The idea of three is so powerful to me. As much as there is "more" there is freedom for everyone to have the quality together time as well as their independence. I know what it takes to make a relationship work and growing together as well as individuals is key for something lasting. Balancing the strengths and weaknesses to accent each other, not being afraid to admit when you are wrong nor afraid to change things that need it. I am open, free, and unattached to where I am now. I have spent most of my life in the advancement of others. I have saved marriages and lives with my perspectives into life and oneself. I am on the cusp of my book of the interactions of humanity with and without oneself. I am a avid information seeker and historian. I take nothing for face value. I spent many years with an anthropology major and I know far more about humanity than I want to know. I can promise that by getting close to me, I will challenge you to look within yourself and evaluate where you are within your life as well as show you doors within the mind you never thought were there. While I am not perfect by any means (who is?) through my interactions with the others I have known in my life I have come to a realization that I am like a mirror. Through me you will see you. I have spent most of my life on the path of self growth and discovery. The problem with advancing these parts of self is that the farther I walk the lonelier I become because I notice more and more people behind me distracted with the constant bombardments of life. I am looking for those like minded companions that are on a track of becoming whole within themselves, or those who find this road one they would like to walk. It is a hell of a ride, I can tell you that much. ^.^ So, who's up for it? |
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Posted By: LTBrandon84 on: 5/5/09 7:15 AM |
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I think three way relationships are great. My boyfriend and I have tried it out a few times and have gained a lot of experience from them. I agree with everyone previously that you really have to put tons of effort as now you're maintaining two men's feelings, but the outcome is absolutely amazing.
We're not currently in one right now, but think about it again. It's great to share a part of your life with two men... there's always a lot to do... in and out of the bedroom. it's also nice because you can lay between them ... and have a cock for each hand! :-) Hardest part sometimes is trying to figure out which one to go down on... j/k hahaha... Anyways, if anyone is thinking about it, it's definitely worth it! |
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Posted By: sexEboi on: 2/19/09 10:31 PM |
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how does one go about finding a relationship to join to make a three way relationship?
obviously, a threesome is rather different then actually being part of a three way relationship for longer then just the sex. or like how does a couple go about discovering they want to add a third person to their relationship and then how do you choose the right guy? i'm just curious to know cuz i'm quite interested in gaining a better sense of how i can make this work for myself. haha thanks! :D |
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Hey guys! |
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Posted By: XoRainbowZoX on: 11/27/08 3:50 PM |
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Hi, I'm Travis I'm 18/m/SC currently can't wait till i grad. at the beginning of june then plan on working to save for college for a while.
I was reading over the other discussions and just thought i'd throw myself out there as a single male curious about 3way relationships, and would like to find a couple to try this with. ^_^ Hit me back! |
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